More Money, More Problems

I haven't posted in the last few days because I haven't been feeling all that well. I have been under some stress here at home due to our bad money decisions. The Hubbs makes more than enough money for us to live comfortably, but some times we go overboard on our spending. I can't help but feel like a failure during these times. Having money issues can bring a lot of stress on a marriage and unfortunately for me I'm the only one in the relationship who knows what and how the bills are paid. The Hubbs feels that since he works hard to make the money he shouldn't have to worry about bills. I agree with him to a certain degree, but he still needs to know what bills need to be paid so that he can control his spending, something he doesn't do now. Of course he has his point of view, I have mine and it's not always easy to meet in the middle. It's a frustrating situation, but one we have no one to blame for but us. Hopefully our situation will get better soon and that we learn from this mistake. I promise to keep up next week. Have a great and productive weekend.

Whats the Perfect Number?

I had someone tell me that the Hubbs and I are making a mistake by not having more kids. So I ask them what is the perfect number? Is there really a perfect number? I don't think so, in my opinion it's whatever you and your partner feel comfortable with.
Originally the Hubbs and I wanted 4-5 babies. We had my son and waited almost 6 years to have our daughter. There were definitely a lot of circumstances that made us wait this long, but I think we made the right choice. After I had her we still felt like maybe having one more, but as time went by we decided we were done. The truth of the matter is kids require a lot of attention and we don't think we can give our children quality time if we have more. I constantly find myself having to sacrifice time with my son because my daughter needs me. I used to volunteer a lot at his school and now because I don't have a reliable babysitter during the day I cannot do this as easily. A lot of people just think about money when it comes to planning a family, but they should be thinking about time as well. More than money and possessions children need their parents to be there and nurture them. What's the point of having a lot of kids if you never get to see them because you have to work hard to support them? I believe if more parents realized this we would have less children out there doing anything to get a little bit of attention.
Big families where probably a great idea back in the 20th Century when life was slower and much simpler, but now in this hectic world, in my opinion, it doesn't make much sense.